regarding narcissism

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It’s amusing to me how this woman, Lila, AKA Deborah Green, self-proclaimed “Prophet of God,” and “General of His end-day army,” calls ME a narcissist. 

To understand Narcissism, let’s look up NPD, or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD, 301.81) is described as a mental disorder with a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, a need for admiration or adulation, and a lack of empathy for others.

Five or more of the following criteria must be met for diagnosis. Quotes are from Dr. Sam Vaknin’s, Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited.

1. Feels grandiose and self-important.

The narcissist is prone to magical thinking. He thinks about himself in terms of ‘being chosen’… . He believes that his life is of such momentous importance, that it is micro-managed by God. Narcissism and religion go well together, because religion allows the narcissist to feel unique. God is everything the narcissist ever wants to be: omniscient, omnipresent, admired… .

2. Is obsessed with fantasies of unlimited success, fame, fearsome power or omnipotence, unequalled brilliance.

The narcissist is haunted by the feeling that he is possessed of a mission, of a destiny, that he is a part of fate, of history. He is convinced that his uniqueness is purposeful, that he is meant to lead, chart new ways, to reform… . He feels part of a grand design, a world plan and the fame of affiliation, the group of which he is a member [or leader], must be commensurate grand.

3. Is firmly convinced that he or she is special, and can only be understood by, or associate with, other special or high status people.

4. Requires excessive admiration, adulation, attention and affirmation.

A common error is to think that ‘narcissistic supply’ consists only of admiration, adulation and positive feedback. Actually, being feared, or derided is also supply. The main element is ATTENTION.

He feeds off other people, who hurl back at him the image that he projects to them. This is their [ the other people’s] sole function in his world: to reflect, to admire, to applaud, to detest… .” In short, the group must magnify the narcissist, echo and amplify his life, his views, his history… .”

5. Feels entitled. Expects unreasonable or special and favorable priority treatment.

“He considers his very existence as sufficiently nourishing and sustaining [of others]. He feels entitled to the best others can offer without investing in maintaining relationships or in catering to the well-being of his “suppliers.”

6. Is interpersonally exploitative; uses others to achieve his or her own ends;

He will not hesitate to put other people’s lives at risk. He will preserve his sense of infallibility in the face of his mistakes and misjudgments by distorting the facts, by evoking mitigating or attenuating circumstances, by repressing memories, or simply lying.”

7. Is devoid of empathy.

“… the narcissist does not care. Unable to empathize, he does not fully experience the outcome of his deeds and decisions. For him humans are dispensable, rechargeable, reusable. They are there to fulfill a function: to supply him with Narcissistic Supply (adoration, admiration, approval, affirmation, etc.). They [other people] have no existence apart from carrying out their duty.

8. Constantly envious of others or believes that they feel the same about him or her.

9. Have arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes coupled with rage when frustrated, contradicted, or confronted.

That which has cosmic implications calls for cosmic reactions. A person with an inflated sense of self-importance, reacts in an exaggerated manner to threats, greatly inflated by his imagination and by the application of his personal myth. Narcissists live in a state of constant rage, repressed aggression, envy and hatred. As a result, they are paranoid, suspicious, scared and erratic.”

NPD is a pernicious, vile and tortuous disease, which affects not only the narcissist. It affects and forever changes people who are in daily contact with the narcissist.”

“Sooner, or later, everyone around the narcissist is bound to become his victim. People are sucked, voluntarily or involuntarily, into the turbulence that constitutes his life, into the black hole that is his personality, into the whirlwind which makes up his interpersonal relationships. Different people are hurt by different aspects of the narcissist’s life and psychological make-up. Some trust him and rely on him, only to be bitterly disappointed. Others love him and discover that he cannot reciprocate. Yet others are forced to live vicariously, through him.”

Sources: (click on links below to learn more)

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Malignant Self Love: the narcissist bible. 

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